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Christmas together

Christmas 2021

Our third Christmas

Our awesome life

I love to reflect on the year past. Am I on track as it pertains to my goals? What worked, what didn’t work, and what do I need to change or adjust? It never occurred to me that I may have been using the incorrect measuring stick.

Unbeknownst to me, our first Christmas together—revealing our love for each other—would be a tipping point. How awkward could that have been if the other didn’t feel the same? DOH! LOL!

So, I thought it would be a fun exercise to list some of the pros and cons to confirm my gut feelings.

PROS: I love you; you love me; you are beautiful; you are an amazing mother; you are very smart; you are a thinker; our core values align; we have an unwavering mutual respect; we support each other on every level; we travel awesomely together; you make me a better man; you ground me; you are my drinking buddy; we love spending time together; we love to share new experiences; we are a power couple; my weaknesses are your strengths; we want for nothing; we belong together.

CONS: We cannot have babies. We make others jealous.

Looks like we will need to learn how to live with the cons. :)

Cheers to our AMAZING life!

I love you with all my “heart and soul,” my Kandi Cain.

Relationship

I have always thought, “If I had a strong woman in my life who truly loved me, we could accomplish anything.” I recently realized a problem with this statement: the word “would.” I don’t live in the past.

Career

This year brought changes in my life that, by any measure, would have been devastating to most—the decision to step down and away from a company I founded and built. I thought it defined who I am. Come to find out, it was simply a hiding place I found familiar, needed, and safe.

Heart

My heart has always been guarded and untrusting. My goal this year was to let go of what I think I know and explore what I do not. I never realized my thirst for love, nor could I have imagined my heart and head being aligned. I feel safe. I feel loved. I feel happy. I feel we can accomplish anything together.